How To Apologize
Knowing how to apologizecan save relationships The book “Five Languages of Apology’ (Chapman & Thomas, 2006) offers five steps to move toward healing relationship injuries. Chapman suggests that people have preferred ways of receiving apology messages, and that...
Relationship Injuries
Don’t complain to me It’s your own fault What is a relationship injury? A relationship injury can occur for many reasons. Some reasons for relationship injury are when one or more individuals experience something in the relationship that leaves them with a perception...
Relationship ABC
Relationship ABC Aroha and Ben could feel the sudden escalation (names have been changed). The same hot topic had reared its ugly head again. Both of them felt triggered. Each of them could feel the emotions from previous encounters begin to surface. Things were about...
Healing: Misconceptions and Tips
Healing: Misconceptions and Tips Most of us have experienced some kind of emotional injury. This injury could impact us as individuals, and also our relationships. Finding a way of healing injuries can help us move forward in a more positive way, and can save our...
Don’t Guess the Yes
Sexual Consent “Don’t guess the yes” When it comes to sex, world trends are moving toward what is called “affirmative consent”. What is affirmative consent? Some say it is a matter of common sense and respect. Let’s break it down to what affirmative consent is, and...
Are Men too Macho to Apologize???
Do Women Over-Apologize??? If you think you hear women apologizing more than men, you are most likely right. Does this mean that men are too macho to apologize? Funnily, Schumann and Ross wondered the same thing, and their research came up with some interesting...
Kiwis Can-Do COVID
Three ways to support relationships through the ongoing COVID experience Our New Zealand team of five million seems mostly to have been able to navigate the COVID experience with a kiwi can-do attitude. We initially managed the short term uncertainty by moving into...
Where Did the Love Go
What happened to the ‘in love’ feeling? When Tuakana and Samantha first got together their love seemed perfect and never ending. The conflict that had started to happen was leaving them both hurt and unhappy. According to Gottman (2014), relationships transition...
It is your fault
It is your fault How to save your relationship from the ‘it is your fault’ sequence Ben was upset with Jane when she arrived home late from her shift at work, and he had less time before starting out for his gym session. If Jane had taken the route he had suggested,...Author Bio
Jenny is a relationships counsellor. She began Courage Counselling to provide a family-safe environment to hold on to hope for families and relationships.
